Here are some warning signs of an unhealthy relationship:
You feel bad about yourself because your partner calls you names, makes fun of you, or sees you as stupid or incompetent.
Your partner lies to you or cheats on you.
Your partner controls your access to money, who you spend time with, how you dress, where (or if) you work, or how you act.
When there is a disagreement, you are always wrong and they are always right.
They promise to change but never do.
You fear bringing up a subject that is important to you because your partner might get very angry, or hurt you.
Sometimes people stay in unhealthy relationships because they really love the other person and hope they will change. Some relationships can work- with effort and counseling. But, if your partner is not willing to get help or wants to keep the problems in your relationship a secret, that could be a sign they aren’t interested in wanting to change.
While no relationship is perfect, consider some of these questions as you evaluate your relationship:
Is your partner kind?
Is your partner patient?
Do they put time and effort into your relationship?
Do they try to discuss issues rather than jump to a conclusion?
Are they responsible and trustworthy?
Do they help you to be your best self?
Are you able to express yourself comfortably with them?
Do they have respect for sexual boundaries?
Do you each take time to do things apart but also have common interests?
If you can answer yes to these questions, then you could be in a healthy relationship. However, if you find yourself answering no, it might be a good time to get advice from someone you trust, and who wants the best for you.
Please feel free to reach out to us if you would like to talk to a client advocate about the health of your relationship. Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy and feeling like you are in an unhealthy relationship but don’t know what to do? We are here to help. We provide free and confidential services and support to anyone facing a pregnancy decision.